The moment I wake up

There are so many ways of choosing how to present oneself as a woman, and explaining that to your daughter is…complicated.

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When you’re not the favorite parent

It happens, it’s temporary, and boy does it ever suck.


That whole “coparenting” thing

Hayley DeRoche pulls in her husband, Patrick, for a frank discussion on what it’s like to try and mold a human being…with the input of another person.


Hayley refutes last week’s assertion that kids are superfun

Sorry, Sam, your partner in family-writing crime heartily disagrees with you.

A trail in the woods

Heavy, lovely, invisible chainmail

Notes from toddlerless travels.


Yes, please, but…: Having all the things, but not all of each thing

Hayley DeRoche struggles with work ambition, a drive to DO, and a simultaneous desire to do more in other, more familial areas.

Plane wing

Toddler trippin’: The four stages of dreaming big with toddler vacations

A cross-country trip with a toddler…how hard could it be?


The kids at the park are alright

Just take a seat on the bench, take a deep breath, and peacefully observe. It’ll be fine.


The thick-skinned parent: Choosing your way and shrugging off haters

So you don’t subscribe to an Official Parenting Philosophy, so what?


The Cobbler’s Child: A photoessay of failure

As a librarian, it’s Hayley DeRoche’s job to be up on diversity in books. Then she realized her daughter’s books were a blinding lily-white. Whoops!